High on the Mountain Top
Join Date: Nov 2003
Location: Smurf Village, BC, Canada.
Interest: hiking, exploring, reading, random shiny things
I don't have my Mac with me at work, but I'll try to explain what I do from memory.
If you don't want iPhoto involved, you need to change the preferences so that it doesn't automatically grab your photos and put them in its database. That way, when you insert your SD card or otherwise import photos to your Mac, you'll be able to choose where to save them. As I mentioned, I save them into my own folders.
I find Adobe Bridge much better for sorting and organizing my pictures (manually....which goes against the purpose of iPhoto, but I like the control). Bridge could be a whole separate topic, but the point is, if your photos are in your Finder directory (not in the iPhoto database), you'll be able to do whatever you want with them, and the upload feature will work.